Even though eating disorders have been studied for decades, misinformation still spreads — and some of it is surprisingly persistent. As a parent, these myths can quietly shape how you view your child’s behaviors, how quickly you seek help, and even the kind of treatment you pursue.
Let’s set the record straight.
Myth #1: “They don’t look sick, so it can’t be an eating disorder.”
The truth: Eating disorders affect people of all body sizes. In fact, many individuals with serious eating disorders are not underweight. Focusing only on appearance can delay help until the illness is much more entrenched.
Why it’s dangerous: Waiting for someone to “look” sick often means missing the earliest — and most treatable — stages of illness.
Myth #2: “It’s just a phase or a diet gone too far.”
The truth: An eating disorder is a serious mental health condition, not just “an extreme diet.” They rarely resolve without intervention and can become chronic if left untreated.
Why it’s dangerous: Minimizing the behaviors can keep families from acting quickly — and early action is one of the strongest predictors of recovery.
Myth #3: “Only girls get eating disorders.”
The truth: Boys, men, and people of all genders and age experience eating disorders. The shame and stigma for boys can be even greater, which may keep them from speaking up or asking for help.
Why it’s dangerous: Ignoring the signs in boys and men can mean they fly under the radar until the illness is severe.
Myth #4: “If I talk about it, I might make it worse.”
The truth: Avoiding the topic doesn’t protect your child — it can make them feel more alone. The key is to approach the conversation with care, curiosity, and compassion.
Why it’s dangerous: Silence allows misinformation, shame, and secrecy to thrive — all of which fuel eating disorders.
Myth #5: “If they’re still doing well in school or sports, it’s not serious.”
The truth: Many kids hide eating disorder behaviors while excelling academically or athletically. Perfectionism and high achievement can actually be risk factors.
Why it’s dangerous: High-functioning kids can be especially skilled at hiding unhealthy eating behaviors. They may be praised for their discipline, while those very behaviors are causing them significant harm.
What Parents Can Do Instead
- Educate yourself on the early signs of eating disorders.
- Act early — even if you’re not sure.
- Focus on health, not weight.
- Seek professional guidance from providers experienced in eating disorder care.
Bottom line: The earlier an eating disorder is identified and treated, the better the chances for a full recovery. Let’s replace these myths with facts — and protect our kids from the harm misinformation can cause.